So, you want to enter a relationship? Maybe love don dey hungry you, or all your friends have boo’d up, and you’re tired of being the designated third wheel.
Before you jump in, let’s talk about some key things you need to know before taking that step, because love no be beans.
1. Know Yourself First
Before saying “yes” to anybody, ask yourself: Do I even know myself? What do I like? What are my goals? If you don’t know who you are, you might just lose yourself trying to fit into someone else’s life. Take time to understand your strengths, weaknesses, and emotional needs. Self-awareness will help you choose a partner that complements you rather than complicates your life.
2. Emotional Maturity – No Be Every Small Thing You Go Vex
Relationships require emotional intelligence. Can you handle misunderstandings without turning it into a WWE match? Do you know how to communicate without giving the silent treatment for three business days? Love no be Nollywood movie where small misunderstanding means somebody must pack out. Learn how to control your emotions, handle conflicts with maturity, and apologize when you are wrong.
3. No Relationship Can Complete You – You No Be Half Person
Some people enter relationships thinking their partner will “complete” them like JAMB registration form. My dear, be whole on your own. A relationship should add to your happiness, not be the only source of it. If you’re feeling empty, a relationship won’t magically fill that void—work on yourself first.
4. Communication Is Key – No Assume Say Your Partner Be Prophet
If something is bothering you, talk about it! Nobody will read your mind and magically know what’s wrong. Learn to express yourself clearly, honestly, and respectfully. Also, listen to understand, not just to respond. Effective communication can save your relationship from unnecessary drama.
5. Love No Be By Mouth – Na By Actions Too
Anybody can say “I love you,” but does their behavior match their words? If someone only shows love when it’s convenient for them, or their actions are always causing you stress, my dear, run o. Love is about consistency, sacrifice, and genuine care—not just sweet words and empty promises.
6. Set Boundaries – No Let Love Blind You
Love should not make you lose your self-respect. If your partner does things that make you uncomfortable, speak up. A healthy relationship has clear boundaries and mutual respect. If they constantly disrespect your time, your values, or your feelings, then love don turn bondage.
7. Be Ready for Commitment – No Dey Play “We Move” Relationship
Relationships require effort. If you’re not ready to be consistent, to show up emotionally, and to make sacrifices, then maybe you’re not ready to commit yet. And that’s okay! No be by force. But if you must enter, be prepared to invest your time, energy, and emotions.
8. Not Every Crush Should Turn Into a Relationship – Some People Na Just Vibes
Just because you like someone doesn’t mean you should date them. Attraction is not enough. Do your values align? Do you respect each other? Does the person challenge you to be better or just bring wahala? Think am well before you say “yes.”
9. Relationships Cost Time & Effort – Na Investment
You need to check in, spend time, and be present. Love no be “good morning, have you eaten?” text alone. If you don’t have the time or energy for a relationship right now, focus on yourself first. Love no dey run. A strong relationship requires consistent effort from both partners.
10. Enjoy Your Single Season – No Rush Enter Wahala
Being single is not a punishment! Use this time to grow, explore your passions, and have fun. The right relationship will come at the right time. No let society pressure you into jumping into something just because you feel left out.
At the end of the day, love is sweet when you enter with the right mindset. So, before you rush into a relationship because of pressure, boredom, or societal expectations, make sure you dey ready. Love no be by force, but if you must do am, do am well!
Stay tuned for the next episode in this Relationship 101 series!
