From the moment a girl is born, society starts setting rules for her. “Sit properly.” “Talk softly.” “Don’t be too ambitious.” “Make sure you’re a good wife.”
From childhood to adulthood, the pressure never stops. Women are expected to be perfect! perfect daughters, perfect wives, perfect mothers, perfect professionals—yet, no matter how much they do, it’s never enough.
She gets an education, they say, “Hope you’ll still find a husband?”
She gets married, they ask, “When will you have a child?”
She has one child, they whisper, “One is not enough.”
She has many, they say, “Will you just be a baby-making machine?”
She focuses on her career, they judge, “She’s too ambitious.”
She chooses to stay home, they mock, “She’s just a housewife.”
Omo, how person wan do this life?
Women Are Tired of the Double Standards
A man can chase his dreams without people questioning his priorities. He can focus on work without people saying he has abandoned his family. He can take his time before settling down, and nobody will call him “expired.” But for a woman? The timeline society sets for her life is like a ticking time bomb.
This International Women’s Day, let’s change the conversation. Women should be free to just be. Free to exist outside of societal expectations. Free to be successful without being called “intimidating.” Free to take up space without being asked to shrink themselves.
The Weight of Silent Battles
Do you know how many women are fighting battles nobody sees? The mother who cries at night because she feels overwhelmed but can’t complain because, “Motherhood is a blessing, don’t complain.” The career woman who works twice as hard as her male colleagues to be taken seriously. The young girl whose dreams are dismissed because, “What does a woman need big dreams for?”
The worst part? Society expects women to bear these burdens with a smile—as if suffering with grace is the mark of a “real woman.”
But let’s be honest: strength is not about enduring unnecessary hardship. Strength is knowing when to say ENOUGH.
A Woman’s Worth Is Not Measured by Sacrifice
A woman is valuable because she exists, not because of what she can do for others. Not because of how much she endures. Not because of how well she meets society’s expectations.
So, dear woman, here’s your reminder:
- You don’t have to be perfect to be worthy.
- You don’t have to prove yourself to anyone.
- You don’t have to put yourself last to be considered a “good woman.”
Live on your own terms. Take up space. Own your story. The world will adjust.
To Every Woman Reading This—You Are Enough
Today, we celebrate you, not just for what you do, but for who you are. You are not just somebody’s daughter, wife, mother, or employee. You are YOU—and that alone is worth celebrating.
So breathe. Rest. Drop the weight of expectations. The world may never stop asking for more, but you don’t owe it perfection.
Happy International Women’s Day, Queen.
